CRAZY FIRST DATE TIPS AND TRICKS THAT WORKS

First Date Tips and Tricks

by THOMPSON

The first date: what to wear, where to go, what to say, what to do and what not to do. All this pressure to make a good first impression can be daunting. After all, you know practically nothing about each other and the whole point of a first date is to judge (as much as we don't like to admit it) whether or not we think we'd like to get to know each other better. But first dates don't have to be elaborate or fancy in order for you to secure that coveted second or third date. There are some things you will want to do and others you will want to avoid on a first date to ensure its success and the possibility of future dates as well.

When it comes to dating, it seems everyone thinks they're the expert to turn to for advice. Whether it's your friends or your lovable aunts who constantly inquire about your love life, everyone has a dating tip for you. But we all know what to do on a date, don't we? Always have a smile, listen attentively, be yourself, have fun, and the list goes on. So, if everyone knows the tips for successful dating, then why do we go through so much trouble and anxiety about first dates? Maybe it's because there is no set standard of rules anymore.

Once upon a time, chivalry was the norm. Nowadays, some women get offended when the door is held open or their seat is pulled out for them. Consequently, many single people are at a loss when it comes to knowing what to do and when to do it. And while there may not be an ultimate list of shoulds and should nots, there are still some common dating tips that everyone can agree on.

• It is important to be attentive to your date and this includes listening to what they are saying (and maybe throwing in a question or two) and maintaining eye contact when in a conversation.
• There is nothing worse than meeting your date and not knowing what you're going to do. If you have something planned ahead of time, it shows you put some thought into it.
• If you go out for dinner, why not split the bill? Sure, you were invited out and your date is expected to pay but offer anyway. And if your date picks up the tab, offer to pay the next time. - By all means, call your date if you say you're going to call! If you didn't have a good time then be courteous, and don't promise to get in touch when you really have no intention of doing so.
• Be polite; turn off your cell phone and stop the wandering eyes. There is nothing ruder than taking a casual call from a friend or ogling the waitress at the next table while your date is attempting to hold your attention.
• While talking about past relationships almost always comes up in conversation, don't start telling your date every last detail; they are not your therapist!
• And believe me, chivalry is not dead; women do appreciate it, just don't overdo it boys.

In this world of women's independence, many are taking it upon themselves to ask the man out. And why not?! It shows confidence and is a turn-on for many men. Keep in mind though, confidence is sexy, arrogance is a turn off.

Many people will have a different answer when you ask them their opinion on whether or not a kiss is acceptable on the first date. Maybe all you want to do is hold hands or snuggle and save the kiss for another date. It all depends on the chemistry between you and whether or not it feels right. And if it does, then go for it. Of course, if the date isn't going well, feel free to end the date early with everyone's favorite backup "emergency" phone call from a friend. Chances are if you're not having a good time, neither is your date!

Hopefully, this has broadened your outlook on the world of "first dates". The whole point of a first date is to figure out if you want to get to know the person better. Remember, when it comes to dating and tips, just follow your instinct and no matter the outcome, have fun, enjoy yourself, and relax.

 

9 (Tiny) Dating Tricks That Have A Big Payoff

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Ángelo González

1. When you need someone to open up about something, have them drive you somewhere.

People are at ease behind the wheel because they are in charge of their surroundings. Their attention is also primarily on the road and secondarily on the conversation you’re having, so if you catch them off guard they’ll feel both comfortable and surprised enough to give you an honest answer. Also, sitting side by side with someone during a difficult conversation is less intimidating than staring each other in the eyes.

2. When you want to establish a connection with someone, ask them about their family.

Inevitably they will say something sad at which point you can rub their arm and say “that must be hard for you.” Okay, I stole this trick from Friends, but it totally works. Well, one time the guy started crying, but all the other times it has led to great conversations.

3. If they have not responded to your last two texts, there is no circumstance in which you need to text them again.

Whatever you’re thinking of right now is not an exception. Put down your phone.

4. Compliment people as often as possible.

It’s especially important to tell the person you are dating why you like them–as opposed to needing/liking any man/woman as long as you are in a relationship. Too many people are desperate to “settle down” and they lose track of finding the right person, when your values should be the other way around. No one will be excited to be in a relationship because they are a warm body with the right kind of genitals that happened to be around. Feeling good about yourself helps bring excitement into the relationship.

5. Likewise, compliment yourself.

You don’t need to do this out loud, just know why you are someone that people want to date. When you view yourself as a valuable commodity, other people will adopt this view as well.

6. Tell a vulnerable story.

Talk about something close to your heart, that you are passionate about. It is nearly impossible not to find someone expressing their passion about a subject endearing. Passion is one of those rare things that is universally attractive.

7. If you are an avid Facebook/Twitter user, consider dating someone who isn’t.

Facebook = relationship microwave.

8. Read.

The best way to be a person no one gets bored of is not to be boring. Read books. Learn new things, develop new opinions, have meaningful things to talk about that change from month to month. Don’t be the same person you were last year.

9. Choose wisely.

There are so many people to choose from, SO many. Do not ignore red flags at the beginning of a relationship because you develop a crush. Bounce while you still have the ability, it will only get more difficult the longer you date and you’re wasting your prime years on something you know from the beginning will not work.

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HOW TO KNOW IF SHE REALLY WHAT A KISS

How to KNOW if She Wants a Kiss

by eHarmony Staff

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The first kiss can force you into a tailspin of over-analysis, uncertainty and fear of rejection. Once you understand the secrets to smooching, scoring some mouth music will be a minor gamble rather than a major flip-out. If determining the right time for a first kiss is a challenge, follow some of these tested tips to determine your likelihood for affection.
Gauging the Graze
Her responses to your casual touching can speak volumes about her readiness to move forward. The casual sweeping of her shoulders as you help her with her coat, or her response when you brush against her hand in the popcorn bag or touch the small of her back as you guide her to the table provides plenty of clues. If she pulls away at all, then slow down a bit and take some more time. If she smiles, blushes or giggles, then it’s time to prolong your skin contact. Maybe a hand on hers at the dinner table or a steady arm when walking her to the car will be a comfortable next step toward sealing the smooch.
Hug It Out
One way to learn about how a woman feels about you is to assess the hug response. When saying hello or goodbye, keep the embrace short and look for nonverbal feedback. Does she linger a bit and press into you? If so, you might even be able to get the short first kiss in right then. If she seems a little put off—delivers the dreadful double pat on the back or the famed rigid arm hug—then you have a little more work to do in loosening her up and heading toward romance.
Enthusiasm Matters
If she’s interested, her eagerness will show. It’s generally those “in-between” times that will reveal her level of interest, clueing you in to how she feels about spending time with you. It’s generally in the lull between dinner and the movie or during the walk to the car that she has the best opportunity for reasons—or excuses—to end the date and go home. See if she is anxious to continue the date with you. Does she suggest the idea of coffee or a cocktail to extend the evening or is she looking for an opportunity to ditch you?
Asking for Action
A completely personal preference for women is whether they expect to be asked for permission to be kissed. To be on the safe side, you may be better off asking if you aren’t sure. It will be received as a sign that either you’re a respectful gentleman or you’re a wuss. Keep in mind that we’re talking about a simple display of affection. All you’re going to do is kiss her, and the sexiest way to do this is to be spontaneous. This means that if you want her to get excited, you’re going to have to kiss her without asking for permission. Besides, she can always give you the cheek if she’s not into it. As long as her vibe is welcoming and you don’t turn into a lecherous loser, she might appreciate your first move without hesitation.
Timing the Tenderness
Women notice and welcome the romance and timing of making a first kiss special. They love it when it’s memorable and positive but looks as if it happened spontaneously. Find a time when she’ll welcome some sugar but doesn’t necessarily expect it. A good rule to follow is to not plant the first kiss at a conventional moment when your date might be expecting – and guarding against – a lip lock. The end of the date is full of pressure as you stand at her door awkwardly commenting on how the date went, looking at your toes while fighting stomach butterflies and sweaty palms. Instead, pay attention to her cues and try kissing her earlier in the date or not at all.
The key to determining the right time to go in for the kiss is to pay attention to her hints. Not every date has to end with a smooch. Sometimes it’s better to take your time and work up to the passionate peck. The timing and strategy of kissing is not a science, but it will look that way if you are mechanical and rehearsed. When it finally happens, relax, have fun and enjoy one right in the smacker.

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10 COMMANDMENTS OF DATING AFTER DIVORCE

1. Thou Shalt NOT Make Thy Date Sit Through Stories of 'The Ex'
Seriously, this one is important like nothing else. No one wants to hear stories about how your bat-crap crazy ex wore rain boots to bed. Take it to therapy with you.
2. Thou Shalt NOT Involve Thy Children
I don't care how well-adjusted they seem, your children don't want to know about how nice the man who brought mommy home is, or how cute the woman who daddy's seeing is. In their minds, meeting the 'new beau' just solidifies the fact that you're moving on. Keep your "good news" to yourself.
3. Thou Shalt Date Like Crazy
Unless he's got teeth growing out of his shoulders and a hump on his back, date as many warm bodies as you can (note that I said 'date', not 'sleep with'). Give yourself the chance to get to know as many different personalities as possible, so you don't settle for that man/woman who treats you like a dog, thinking that you can't do better.
4. Thou Shalt Make the First Move
A first move is really nothing more significant than starting a conversation. It's no biggie. I know lots of women who wait for the man to make the first move. They generally date less than those who're perfectly fine playing the dude, and going for it first. Lots of men like a woman who will take that kind of control. Why should HE always have to do the work? If you want him, go GET him!
5. Thou Shalt Take the Time to Get to Know Thyself Before Dating Again
Jumping back into the dating pool simply because your ex is dating doesn't do you OR your prospective dates any good. You'll quickly end up visiting the first Commandment, dragging your pre-divorce baggage into your dating life to beat some poor unsuspecting bugger over the head with. Take the time to get over your divorce baggage, figure out who you are again. In a way, you have to 'rewind the clock' to looking at who you were before you were married. Only THEN are you somewhat ready to play nice with others.
6. Thou Shalt NOT Ditch Thy Friends in Order to Date
Ladies, breaking plans with girlfriends or altering your schedule if dating conflicts occur is a definite NO NO. Men don't change their schedules for us, they simply work around it, and you should too.
7. Thou Shalt NOT Give a Damn What Others Think About Your Choices
Far too often, we put too much stock in what others ie: friends and family will think about the fact that we're dating again, or about what they will think of your latest 'prospect'. Put it aside. Use your own best sense. Follow your gut. Nothing is better than that.
8. Thou Shalt Get a Wardrobe Inspection
If you haven't been in the dating game for a few years, your closet is likely full of styles from God knows what era, and you probably have the same "do" that you had when you got married. Having someone with some fashion sense give you an honest physical inspection is one of the best tips for dating after divorce. In order to attract others you have to be somewhat attractive, plain and simple.
9. Thou Shalt Be the Person You Want to Date
It sounds a bit self-centered but let me try to explain it delicately; Humans are visual beings for the most part...especially you men. If you won't date that woman with the extreme muffin-top, you need to ditch the third-trimester beer gut. Capiche?
10. Thou Shalt 'Look Up'
Lately, there's been a ton of talk about how difficult it is to find decent, 'normal', warm bodies to date. Divorced or not, dating is difficult anywhere, especially if you're afraid to take a chance. I was asked in an interview recently why I think that dating is so difficult, and quite frankly, I think the reason is twofold; Firstly, like I said before, we're afraid to take a chance. Men don't want to talk to the cute brunette in the coffee shop because they're afraid of getting shot down. Same goes for women. Big deal. So you get shot down. It won't kill you.
Secondly, we don't 'look up'.
Because of all of the social networking that we do, we connect on a technological level (ie: Twitter, Facebook, dating sites, etc.), but we've become totally anti-social in the real world. The next time you're in a coffee shop, take notice of how many men and women are completely ignoring each other, because whatever's on the iPhone or Blackberry is more engaging. Ludicrous!
People! LOOK UP! Connect with the humans around you! Talk to each other! Ask the brunette if you can buy her coffee! I promise you it won't kill you.

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IS IT NECESSARY TO HAVE SEX WHILE DATING ESPECIALLY TEENAGERS

Is Sex Necessary While You’re Dating?

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Is it necessary for teenagers or young adults who just entering college to have sex whilst dating? Is it true that most teenagers who are dating end up with the involved boys and girls having sex? What is the incidence of teen sex? What are the cultural differences in sexual attitudes?

These are some of the queries I attempt to answer in this short article.

Dating is a very important part of modern social behavior and cannot be condemned by civil society. The controversy lies around the rising trend of teen sex and its consequences. The liberal thinkers who advocate teen sex during dates are now an increasingly vocal number. Among the benefits is the fact that teenagers get a better understanding of the opposite sex and prepare them for adult life.

But the vast majority still believe that premarital sex is taboo, and definitely not during teen years when the child is in the phase between adulthood and childhood. This phase of life needs to be closely monitored with the parents always available to advise the adolescent rather than condemn him or her for their sexual adventurism. The biggest danger of teen sex is unwed motherhood or teen pregnancy. Such pregnancies endanger the life of both the teen mother and her unborn child. Teen pregnancy results in trauma, both to the boy and the girl, as well as their families. The legal issues of such an event are even worse, with the possibility of the boy being accused of rape and subsequent imprisonment. The other dangers include venereal diseases, notably HIV—AIDS, syphilis, gonorrhea etc.

The social implications of unwed and teen pregnancies and teen motherhood are very great. Whole generations are now laid wasted by this process. So whilst dating may be acceptable, teens should be strongly advised against having sex.

The statistics: (USA)
Leading surveys on adolescent sexual habits show that almost 46 percent of all teens (fifteen- to nineteen-year-old) have had sexual intercourse (USA). By fifteen years old, 13 percent of teen females would have had sex. However by the age of nineteen, more than 70 percent of teen females have had sex (USA). These figures are rather disturbing by any account. Many liberal Western nations now freely allow the distribution of condoms and other contraceptives among adolescents, due to this trend. Another disturbing fact is the rise of STD (sexually transmitted diseases) among the youth. Nearly half of all new STD cases in USA occur among the teens (out of a total of nearly 19 million new cases each year).

The cultural differences in sexual attitudes:
Most Asian societies frown on premarital sex and anything more that polite social interaction between youth. Thailand is an exception to this rule. Here premarital sex is common and can be easily purchased (via sex workers or as sexual favors). Many, so called, primitive or tribal societies also allow premarital and extramarital sex. This is found in many tribes in India and other parts of Asia. A fact that needs to be noted is that societies that encourage frequent sex among married or unmarried men and women also are liberal and spend more time on eroticism and sexual encounters. These societies/ nations also have less time for war or aggression.

Summary
Sex is part of humans’ life, no denial. But it should be done with full consciousness and responsibilities. I strongly recommend that teenagers should not have sex until they fully understand the consequences that come with it.

Parents play a big role in this matter. Give clear understanding to their teenager child about sex, and parents’ support if somehow teenager has had sex.

After all, there should be time for everything. So why rush?

12 STEPS TO DISCOVER YOUR DATE IS MARRIED(WITH PICTURES )

How to Tell if Your Date Is Married

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So you've finally met the man or woman of your dreams: great conversation, great times, great... Great Gosh! Suddenly his or her spouse is calling you accusing you of trying to destroy their marriage, and your dreamboat sails out of your life just like that. Unfortunately, for one reason or another married men and women do sometimes stray, and if you're not careful you could get caught in a very bad situation and never see it coming. How do you know if your love interest is already taken?

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   Don't become involved with men or women who you know are married. This should be obvious, but there are all kinds of ways for married people to explain their situation. For example, a man may tell you that he's separated from his wife, or a woman may say that the divorce is almost final. Almost doesn't count. Inviting these people into your life is like inviting heartbreak-and possibly bodily injury.
   
   
   
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   Watch for obvious signs. OK, the wedding ring should clear up your doubts right away. Assuming the person is smart enough to take his or her ring off, though, there may still be a tan line on the ring finger. What about the pictures of that woman in his wallet or the photo of that man on her desk? Obvious clues should raise legitimate concerns, and you should ask about them and maybe do some investigating.
   
   
   
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   Consider whether your meetings with the person are strange in any way. If the person won't give you his or her phone number, but rather insists only on calling you, that should be a red light. The same can be said if they'll only give you their cell phone or work number. If your meetings always have to be prearranged and have strict time frames, that's another bad sign. When you go out, do you always have to go someplace far away (another town or neighborhood, for example), or does the person always want to stay in? That should set off an alarm. Have you ever seen his or her house, or does the person always want to go to your house? Do you even know where he or she lives? In a normal dating relationship, you shouldn't have these constraints, so if you do, there's probably something wrong.
   
   
   
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   Watch for strange behavior while on dates. If your date's cell phone rings at the restaurant and he or she has to urgently flee your table to answer it, you may be tempted to wonder why. Give in to that temptation. It could be an important work call, but then again, it could be his or her spouse, and the latter possibility becomes increasingly plausible if it seems to happen time and time again. You also should think it strange if he or she sees someone and tries to avoid them.
   
   
   
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   Watch his or her reaction when you talk about family or past relationships. Usually these things come up in the course of conversation, but if you're suspicious, you may want to tactfully bring them up. If the person seems uncomfortable talking about such subjects, or if their body language indicates that they may be lying, your suspicions may be warranted.
   
   
   
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   Your date may give you strange or suspicious reasons for not wanting to go to certain places. Consider this a red flag because they may be avoiding these areas so they aren't seen by anyone they know that could tell their spouse about what's going on.
   
   
   
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   Make sure you meet the person's friends. At some point, usually early, in a relationship, you should probably have occasion to meet some of the person's friends. If you don't, he or she may be hiding you from them. The same could be true if you meet one or two of the person's friends, but only those one or two every time.
   
   
   
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    Drive by his or her house or stop by unexpectedly. This assumes you know where the person lives, and it also assumes that you believe you have reason to be suspicious. Usually a visit to the house will quickly tell you if the person is married.
    
    
    
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HOT TIPS ON HOW TO ATTRACT MARRIED WOMEN

5 Hot Tips On How To Attract Married Women

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At some point in their lives, a good number of men often wonder how to attract married women. Today, more and more men are finding approaching and seducing married women very satisfying. There are several reasons why men might do this, they may want to take up the challenge to try and win over something that has already been taken or the fact that usually there are no commitments involved and also great sex. Remember though you are just looking to have a good time, not to break up marriages. If you want to attract a married woman and you think she will be willing, don’t be ashamed, go ahead and do it, but just make sure you both understand the ground rules so no-one gets hurt. Wanting to know how to attract a married woman is one thing, but knowing how to go about it is essential so that you can be successful. Here are 5 hot tips on how to attract married women.

Tip #1: Appreciate Her

Married women mostly feel bored and unappreciated at home. So to attract her, you have to make her feel gorgeous and appreciated. Many of these women are insecure about themselves and do not feel as beautiful as when they were not married. Therefore, telling her that she is sexy will most definitely flatter her and this increases the chances of getting her attracted to you. Giving her all the lavish praises and compliments she might be lacking at home is very essential.

Tip #2: Treat Her As If She Were Single

When learning how to attract a married woman, do not treat her as if she is another man’s wife. Treat her like a young, single and sexy woman. Never bring up stories about her husband and ensure you make all your conversations about the two of you. Every woman wants to remain young and sexy in the eyes of men, as women age they feel less sexy hence ensure you assure her that she is still a turn on for any man, especially you!

Tip #3: Ensure She Knows You Want Her, But Don’t Stalk!

You should give the woman you are interested in your telephone number and then let her call you. Avoid going too far with everyday calls as this might put her in an uncomfortable position or even scare her away. Remember, what you are looking to have with her is a fun fling and not to break up her marriage. Most of her time she is probably with her husband and you do not want her to raise any suspicions. Leaving everything to her gives her the control she requires to feel free to adequately pursue her extramarital affair.

Tip #4: Be Unpredictable

One thing to remember when wanting to know how to attract married women is that the chances are that her husband is very predictable. Therefore, you need to be as unpredictable as you possibly can. You can achieve this by calling her at times on a weekday and changing it to a weekend. Avoid performing the same sexual moves all the time and keep bringing something new once in a while. Avoid taking her out on usual dates. Be sophisticated and sexy by dressing fashionably. Always ensure that the woman likes how you look. Remember, appearance is great very crucial in any relationship, and this is not different. Wear nice cologne and look fresh and clean at all times. Married women want something exciting to fulfill a fantasy so don’t disappoint her.

Tip #5: It Is All About Her

This is almost certainly what she is missing in her marriage hence a great way to attract her. Give her anything she needs. If she wants to talk, for example, listen to her and show her that you care what she is saying. Act like a good friend and lover. You should also show her passion by being passionate about things you share from the food you eat together to the great sex you share.

So, how to attract married women is not very difficult if you follow the simple rules above. By making her feel sexy and appreciated, you will find yourself in a fantastic passionate relationship within no time. This way, you will have a satisfying sexual relationship, where both parties don’t have to worry about commitments. By following the above tips, your fantasy of attracting a beautiful married woman will very much become a reality.